Wednesday, 15 August 2012

real love

"Real Love is unconditionally caring about the happiness of another person."

Greg Baer author of Real Love has been helping countless people to heal their relationships with partners especially but also with family members, friends and workmate - and bring true  love into their lives.
Without the knowledge of how to truly love eachother we trade imitation love - praise, power, pleasure and safety - all things which are fine in themselves but do not satisfy like real love.  Real love is caring for someone else's happiness without need for anything else in return.

Greg explains that to be happy we need to feel loved, to be loving and to take responsibility for our own happiness.  In the absence of these, the alternatives often employed are what Greg terms 'getting and protecting behaviours'.  Getting behaviours are used to fill emptiness and include attacking, lying, acting the victim (blaming) and clinging.  Protecting behaviours are used when we are frightened and include attacking, lying, acting the victim (blaming) and running.  Running includes escapist behaviours such as alcohol and drug abuse and sex addiction.  When we take responsibility for our own happiness we can let go of these behaviours and learn to love.  There is so much relationship advice out there these days, much of it good but so often, even if it appears to get us what we think we want, it may be grounded in manipulative behaviours which will never ultimately bring is the joy, happiness and liberation  that we are ultimately looking for.

Real Love UK was established by Pete & Nikki Uglow who found themselves facing potential divorce and in desperate need of relationship advice that was instantly available and that actually worked.  They discovered Greg's work and have made it their sole purpose to bring Greg’s philosophy here to the UK.  I'm really impressed with what they are doing!  They make it all very accessible and easy to grasp and are helping  many people shift dramatically and turn their lives around in very short spaces of time. There are many helpful educational materials available on these sites and also you can find out about 'interventions' which are a few intensive days of guidance during which you get to truly experience the process of feeling and sharing real love and finding how you can change in order to experience this in the rest of your life.  The websites are:

Intimacy is an innate desire because it leads towards wholeness.  In order to achieve intimacy we need to be able to truly love.  It could be said that we are all part of one consciousness and are really figments of each other's imaginations and create our own reality but at some level we choose to experience ourselves and each other as real individuals and to have impact on each other so we can have the joy of loving eachother and being loved.

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