"that's where we are as human beings - we're deeply hooked into one another...from the beginning of life, from conception to the very end"
According to girls' journals, 50-60 years ago their primary concern was the contribution they could make to society, now it's "what do I look like?" or "will I be accepted by my peers?"
Authority comes from attachment.
Self-esteem is not about what others think of us or peer approval.
Development needs vulnerability. The primary quality for learning is a sense of curiosity, curiosity is vulnerable, it means you care about something and that you don't know.